FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
What can I expect from Therapy?
Making the first call is scary. Showing up to the first appointment is even scarier. It’s also normal to leave that very first session and think, “Why in the world did I just tell all of that really personal information to a complete stranger?!” Rest assured, all of this is normal. In an attempt to ease some of those nerves, here are some things you can expect out of therapy:
– Compassion and empathy; no judgment
– Illumination of current patterns and introduction to new perspectives
– Interventions meant to elicit change
What can I expect from Mediation?
Navigating the divorce process is difficult enough without going to open court. Mediation provides an opportunity for ex-partners to work together, collaborate, and get creative. Couples who choose to move forward with mediation rather than litigation have a lower chance of returning to court in the future. Mediation is more cost-effective, less emotionally tolling, and less time consuming. There is no judge to tell you what you, your partner, or your child is going to do. Instead, we will figure out what’s best for all parties, together. Mediation involves an unbiased third party (me) that will assist you throughout the divorce process, acting as a buffer between you and your ex. In most cases, both parties lawyers will be present as we work through the process together. The entire process can take anywhere from a few hours to a few months depending on the amount of information we are working with and the amicability between former-partners. I take a facilitative approach to mediation, focusing largely on mitigating damage to the relationship when possible. This is especially important when children are involved.
What is Brainspotting?
Brainspotting is a tool that helps us get past the cognitive, logical level of the brain (the neocortex) into the true emotion (mammalian brain) of any situation. It is a method for allowing the brain and the body to process past and current events in a way that leads to miraculous change and growth. Though typically associated with trauma, brainspotting is effective with a large range of situations. It works based on the fact that where we look, effects how we feel. Using a pointer or other object, we will locate a “brain spot” that connects most with the situation, emotion, and place in the body that is being affected. We will then keep your focus on that spot and from there, the brain and the body know what to do. For more information, you are welcome to request copies of research articles and books on the topic.
Are therapy and mediation confidential?
YES! No information is disclosed without written permission in the form of a Release of
Information from the client. However, there are some exceptions to this rule as required by law.
1 Suspected abuse of a child, dependent adult, or elder.
2 Threats of serious bodily harm to another person.
3. Intentions to harm self.
4. Subpoena by court
Therapy or Mediation hasn’t worked for me in the past, why would it work for me now?
Research shows, and my own experience corroborates, that the largest predictor of a satisfactory outcome is the therapeutic relationship. The same can be said for mediation. You will want to be sure that your personality and ways of viewing the world fit within the way I work with people. If we’re not a good fit, I’ll be happy to refer you to someone who might be better able to serve you.
How long will I be in therapy?
Length of therapy depends on presenting problems and client goals. We will constantly be assessing whether or not we are making progress. If at any point I feel as though we are not moving forward, whether in therapy working toward goals or in mediation coming to agreements, we will discuss what needs to happen next. It is my ethical duty to not waste your time or your money if therapy is not effective. That said, some things take more time than others and the most effective outcomes will come from putting the necessary time and effort in and being able to work through occasional stalemates and regression.
I want to attend therapy as a couple, but my partner refuses. What should I do?
One of the greats in this field, Michele Weiner-Davis, says it only really takes one to tango. By this she means that in many instances we are able to change others when we change ourselves. That said, in the long run you can only do so much on your own. While it is important to still take care of yourself even when your partner isn’t yet ready, it may be helpful to let your partner know that you are seeking therapy to change how you relate and interact with them and let them know that you would appreciate and support their involvement if/when they are ready to join you.
Do you accept insurance?
I do not accept insurance and do not deal directly with insurance agencies. However, some insurance companies will reimburse you or will count the cost of sessions toward your deductible. Contact your insurance company for more information about what they can offer.
If needed, I can provide a session receipt for documentation of services rendered.
What does therapy cost?
The cost for a 45 to 50-minute session is $100 for individuals and pre-marital couples and $125 for all other couples, though your intake session may be $180-$200 for 90 minutes. I offer a limited number of sliding scale fees as needed, just talk to me. Accepted methods of payment are cash, checks, Venmo, Health Savings Accounts, and debit/credit card. All major credit cards are accepted. If you need to cancel or reschedule an appointment, you must give at least 24 hours notice, otherwise you will be charged the full session fee for missed appointments.