ME AS A PERSON
Welcome! My name is Shelby and my pronouns are she/her. Originally from California, I came to Tennessee by way of Washington, DC many years ago. When I’m not in my therapy office, you can find me managing life’s follies with my partner, hanging out with my 3 kids, and wrangling a myriad of felines and our German Shepherd, Spike. I love to read and am always learning. I also enjoy seeing live music and exploring new places. I stay active through yoga, hiking, running, and paddleboarding as often as I can. I am passionate about helping people on their healing journey and I am honored to be considered a part of yours.
MY THERAPEUTIC APPROACH IS:
I recognize that we all have our joys and accomplishments to be proud of, and we all have challenges, pain, fear, and trauma to move forward and heal from. I also recognize that not all families, not all relationships, not all people fit neatly into the dominant societal structure and expectations, but for me, that diversity illustrates how amazing and resilient people are. I welcome you to explore your joys and challenges with me, in a nonjudgemental and affirming space. Come as you are! I meet you where you are at and walk alongside you, helping you discover your inner wisdom and guide you on your healing journey towards your most authentic self.
As a systemically trained therapist, I explore your story through a relationship lens. This includes your relationships with others, your relationships with your culture, your societal relationships and expectations, along with your relationship with yourself. Using various empirically supported therapeutic methods I work with each individual to meet their needs and to explore their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors within the context of their stories. This may include integrating aspects of the Boweian model, a transgenerational approach, exploring the rules and roles of you in the context of your upbringing. Or I may utilize interventions from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), focusing on learning how to love and accept aspects of yourself. We might use Brainspotting to help activate suppressed trauma to allow for processing and healing.
As your therapist, I hold space for you to come as you are and to explore all facets of yourself. We will laugh, cry, move, meditate and work together towards health and healing. I will challenge you to explore those emotions that you may try to ignore – the pain, the confusion, the sadness, and the anger – in a caring and nurturing environment. Change can be hard and doing the work in therapy can be hard, but you will see it is so worth it. My hope is you will feel the restoration of joy, hope and see growth towards being the whole self you are working so hard towards. It is my honor to witness your work and assist you on this healing journey.
I am a pre-licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (working under the supervision of Tracy Hall, license #906 ). I earned my Bachelors of Art in Sociology, Social Services from the University of California, Davis, many moons ago. I earned my Masters in Public Administration, Urban Management from The American University to enhance my advocacy, fundraising, and leadership skills as the director of multiple nonprofit organizations. After a few decades of serving people behind the scenes, I chose to go back to school and earn my Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy/Counseling from Trevecca Nazarene University so I can work hand in hand with you and others on their healing journeys. I am certified in PREPARE/ENRICH a parenting, premarital, and marital counseling and assessment program. I completed Phase One of Brainspotting, a fantastic tool that can help you access, process, and heal from trauma. I received training for Level 1 Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Individuals, and am trained in EFT for couples. I completed training in clinical approaches to healing trauma with Dr. J Eric Gentry. Also, by utilizing my training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) we have the tools to help you embrace and accept your thoughts and emotions, diffuse negative thinking, and work to identify your core beliefs so you can create a life true to yourself. I continue to participate in training for how to best affirm and accept all in the LGBTQ+ community, with training such as Creating Transgender-Affirming Therapeutic Environments by Gert Comfrey, MTS, LMFT. Not only do I identify as part of the LGBTQ+ community, so do some of my loved ones, and it is very important to me that I create a safe healing space for members of this community to gather, share their stories, and heal.
Additionally, I am a Reiki Master and welcome the opportunity to hold space for energy and light to be a part of your healing path. As a trained health and life coach, I can also incorporate discussions about your emotional, physical and spiritual health for holistic healing. Also, using my training as an RYT-200 yoga teacher, I can utilize movement to help you become more aware of your body and how to release tension from stored stress, anxiety, and trauma.
American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists (AAMFT)
Nashville Psychotherapy Institute (NPI)
Southeast Brainspotting Institute (SEBI)